Let me in.
Because of my inability to remain silent and keep my feelings to myself, i often misunderstand others who dont share their thoughts with me...i accuse them of being indifferent, cold and distant. Its not fair and i realize that.But not completely.
Just because i am a certain way doesn't mean that everyone else is similar.. maybe people have let me in as far as they can into their lives and beyond that would mean suffocating themselves.
I wonder if i make my friends feel that way..do they sometimes want me to back off?in my over enthusiasm of being really close friends and helping them out do i tend to overstep my boundaries. and then when they shut me out i blame them of being aloof. crazy huh!!
Its not easy for me to understand why people dont want to share their thoughts with those whom they consider dear.maybe its past experience that makes them distrust everyone in general...
whats the point of being a good friend when u dont really know what your friend is going through..when they laugh with you and u know they are not really all that happy inside.
and when u ask them,they look at you and smile through the tears hoping you won't notice them!Maybe all they need is someone to sit next to them and then they can handle the pain alone.
But somewhere its not enough for me. To be a silent bystander..
posted by aravinda at
8:37 AM
5 Comments:
Every body cannot be you. Never I re- emphasise step your boundaries to share or to help with their concerns. Remeber curiosity kills.... Be yourself and be happy of what you are.
12:55 AM
Sometimes its eaiser to deal with the pain when you just are with someone. When you know that person is there for you, whatsoever. Its an unspoken bond of trust thats developed then. Cos you know he/ she'll be there. Thats being good enough friend for some people sometimes. If you're more than a friend, the reason you know the other person is smiling between tears is because he's letting you see. Yeah it may not be enough, but then for the person it may just be more than enough
5:05 PM
Well. You don't try to get into other people's heads. It just freaks them out. Ask what's wrong. If they don't tell, there may be very good reason for that. Just show you're available to talk and walk away. If the person needs support, he or she will come to you. Doing me-shrink you-patient with people just annoys them.
7:06 PM
Anon#2 - Nice advise being doled out, its imp to respect other people's personal space, however close they may be, but thats not why I am posting this comment...I found Anon#1's comment about 'curiousity kills' really funny...it maybe true for cats(though I didnt see that cat who sneaked into my kitchen yesterday night, trying to see what food I had, die coz she was curious :D), but cut this cliched crap out for humans, they are far superior to their feline couterparts, to die just coz they are curious :D, curiousity leads to inventions and discoveries...and excess of anything is bad(kills as u say)...so nothing special about the killing effect of curiousity in that respect
12:25 AM
Anon#2 apologises for mis-spelling curiosity
12:26 AM
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